Question 05

Since I started meditating and reading spiritual texts, I find myself quietly judging my friends and family for being ‘unconscious’ or caught up in drama. I know spirituality is about love and oneness, but I often feel a sense of superiority or separation from people who aren’t on this path. How do I deal with this ‘spiritual ego’ without suppressing my own growth?

Answer:

Life is nothing but a series of events. Everything else is created by the ego. Sat Chit Ananda requires contentment with everything. The challenge you are facing is created by the ego. No need to overanalyze it.

An event with your loved one happens. ‘The Mind’ starts analyzing, labeling, categorizing, creating, and storing an opinion on it (based on past data/ Samskaras). Then another event happens, ‘The Mind’ processes it and validates it with the earlier opinion. By connecting multiple such events, it comes to a judgment that boosts ‘The Ego’.

Next time an event happens, try to be mindful of the activity in your mind. Just by being mindful, the length of these thoughts and the cycle of creating opinions and judgments will reduce.

Question 06

I have been practicing witnessing my thoughts and detaching from outcomes, just as many teachings suggest. However, lately, this detachment feels more like apathy or numbness. I am losing interest in things I used to love, but I haven’t found that deep inner joy yet. How can I tell the difference between true spiritual detachment and simply becoming emotionally numb or depressed?

Answer:

True detachment does not mean becoming indifferent to life. You can care deeply about something without being attached to its outcome. Detachment is about freedom from compulsive attachment, not freedom from feeling. If you are losing your capacity to enjoy things, connect with people, or feel enthusiasm for life, don’t automatically assume that it is spiritual progress.

It may simply be a phase of spiritual integration. Do more volunteer work/ Seva¹. Going back to your childhood interests and hobbies can also help. Find and follow your inner calling. When you combine this with Seva, you begin to cultivate detached compassion. If the numbness or loss of interest persists or starts affecting your everyday life, it is also important to seek appropriate professional support rather than interpreting everything through a spiritual lens.

Question 07

As my spiritual journey deepens, I feel increasingly out of sync with my old social circles. The conversations feel shallow, and I prefer solitude. While I value my peace, I also feel quite lonely and isolated. Is this phase of outgrowing people a necessary part of the path, or am I failing to see the divine in everyone?

Answer:

Solitude is a highly important part of spiritual transformation. You may naturally feel less interested in certain environments, conversations, and relationships as your priorities change. Let go of what you genuinely don’t feel aligned with, but be careful not to turn this into a belief that you are more conscious or spiritually evolved than others. That itself can become another form of ego.

You can enjoy solitude without becoming separate from people. If some people are meant to be with your newer self, they will naturally remain or come back into your life. As your Sadhana progresses, you will embrace solitude and yet feel one with all. The deeper your spiritual growth, the less necessary it becomes to judge whether someone is on the same path as you.

Question 08

Spiritual teachings often emphasize forgiveness and letting go of past karma. I understand this intellectually, but there are people who have deeply betrayed or abused my trust. How do I practically reach a state of genuine forgiveness when the emotional wounds are still so raw? Does forgiving mean I have to let toxic people back into my life?

Answer:

The world works on cause and effect, also known as Karma². An experience may be part of your karmic journey, but you don’t have to understand exactly why something happened in order to begin letting it go. If you believe that you have karmically experienced the consequences of something from the past, accept the experience, learn from it, and stop carrying it forward. Suffering can become a means of exhausting a Karmic debt, but it does not mean that the actions of another person were justified.

Forgiveness is ultimately about releasing your own attachment to the pain, anger, and desire for the past to have been different. It doesn’t mean forgetting what happened. It doesn’t mean accepting the behavior. It doesn’t mean reconciliation. And it certainly doesn’t mean giving someone access to you again. Forgiveness doesn’t mean access.

Question 09

You mentioned that once we surrender, our worries are taken care of. If I surrender my personal ambitions and desires, how do I know what action to take in the world? How do I discover my true Dharma (purpose) when my mind is no longer chasing external milestones?

Answer:

Take baby steps. Fine-tune your intuition. Acknowledge whenever there are synchronicities, premonitions, or intuition. Once you let go of personal ambitions and desires, you already have a higher bandwidth to align with your Dharma³. Contemplation and your honest intention to align with your purpose will lead you to it. If you see no direction, try contemplating your childhood interests or dreams. That will lead you to your purpose.

When nothing works, you can seek Astrology. Astrology certainly helped me align with my Dharma. You can book an Astrology Consultation with me if you want guidance through your self-discovery phase.

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1. Seva (सेवा) is a Sanskrit word meaning “selfless service” or work performed without thought of reward or personal gain. It is a core spiritual and ethical concept in Hinduism, Sikhism, and Buddhism, representing action done to help others and uplift the community. ↩︎
2. Karma is a Sanskrit word meaning “action” or “deed”. It represents the universal law of cause and effect: every intentional act, thought, or word creates a consequence that returns to the doer. Good deeds bring positive results, while harmful deeds lead to future suffering. ↩︎
3. Dharma is a foundational concept in Indian religions like Hinduism, Buddhism, and Jainism. It means cosmic law, moral duty, righteousness, and the correct way of living. ↩︎